How to Use a Strap On Dildo: Positions and Techniques for Beginners

Exploring a strap-on dildo can open up a world of intimate possibilities, whether you're playing solo or with a partner. It's a versatile toy that allows for hands-free penetration, making it a favorite for many. But if you're new to strap-ons, the idea might feel a bit intimidating. Don't worry—with the right guidance, you'll be comfortable and confident in no time.

In this guide, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about using a strap-on, from choosing the right harness and dildo to mastering positions and techniques. We'll also cover essential safety tips to ensure your experience is both pleasurable and safe. Let's dive in!

Choosing the Right Strap-On Setup

Before you start, it's crucial to pick the right harness and dildo. The harness should fit snugly but comfortably around your hips or waist, with adjustable straps to ensure a secure fit. Look for one with a comfortable waistband and leg straps that won't dig into your skin. For beginners, a simple two-strap harness is often easier to manage than a more complex one.

When it comes to the dildo itself, consider the size and shape. Start with something that's not too large—around 5 to 6 inches in length and 1.25 to 1.5 inches in diameter is a good starting point. The base should be flared to fit securely in the harness ring. If you're using a dildo with a bullet vibe, like the Cushion, you can add clitoral stimulation for the wearer. For a more realistic feel, a dual-density dildo can be a great choice.

• Measure your waist and hips to find the right harness size.
• Choose a dildo with a flared base for safety and compatibility.
• Consider a harness with a pocket for a bullet vibrator to enhance wearer pleasure.

Getting Comfortable: Wearing the Strap-On

Once you have your harness, put it on over your underwear or directly on the skin, depending on the design. Adjust the straps so that the O-ring sits comfortably over your pubic bone. You should be able to insert a finger between the harness and your body—it shouldn't be too tight or too loose. The dildo should point upward at a slight angle, mimicking a natural erection.

Before you start, practice moving around a bit. Walk, sit, and bend to ensure the harness stays in place and feels comfortable. It's normal to feel a little awkward at first, but with practice, it becomes second nature. If you're wearing it for partner play, communicate with your partner about comfort and positioning.

• Wear the harness over snug underwear for extra comfort and hygiene.
• Use a mirror to check the positioning of the dildo.
• Practice solo first to get a feel for movement.

Basic Techniques for Solo Play

Using a strap-on solo can be a great way to build confidence and understand how it feels. You can use it for anal or vaginal self-play by positioning the dildo against a firm surface, like a pillow or the wall, and moving your body against it. This allows you to control the angle and depth. Alternatively, you can use a sex machine or a mounting accessory to hold the strap-on in place.

Focus on the sensations and adjust the angle and thrust to find what feels best. Don't forget to use plenty of lubricant to reduce friction and enhance comfort. If you're using a vibrating dildo like the Orbitor, you can also experiment with different vibration patterns to add extra stimulation.

• Use a pillow or a specialized mounting device for hands-free play.
• Start with slow, shallow thrusts and gradually increase depth.
• Combine with a clitoral vibrator like the FairyWand Mini for added pleasure.

Positions for Partner Play: Beginner-Friendly

When you're ready to involve a partner, start with positions that offer control and comfort. The missionary position is a classic: the wearer kneels or stands while the receiving partner lies on their back with legs raised. This allows for easy eye contact and communication. Another great option is the rear-entry position, where the receiving partner is on all fours and the wearer kneels behind them. This position allows for deeper penetration and is relatively easy to maintain.

For a more intimate option, try the spooning position: both partners lie on their sides, with the wearer behind the receiver. This is great for slower, more sensual play and allows for easy access to the receiver's clitoris or penis for manual stimulation. Remember to communicate about speed, depth, and angle to ensure mutual enjoyment.

• Missionary: great for intimacy and communication.
• Rear-entry: allows for deeper penetration and control.
• Spooning: perfect for slow, sensual play.

Advanced Techniques and Tips

Once you're comfortable with the basics, you can experiment with more advanced techniques. Try varying your thrusting rhythm—slow and deep, then fast and shallow—to keep things exciting. You can also use your hands to stimulate your partner or yourself while wearing the strap-on. For the wearer, grinding against a bullet vibe or a small vibrator like the Beanie LickPod can provide clitoral stimulation.

Incorporate props like a blindfold or light bondage to heighten anticipation. If you're into pegging, remember that the prostate can be a source of intense pleasure for men. Start with a smaller dildo and use plenty of lube. Always check in with your partner to ensure they're comfortable and enjoying themselves.

• Use a bullet vibe in the harness pocket for wearer stimulation.
• Experiment with different thrusting rhythms and angles.
• Communicate openly about what feels good and what doesn't.

Cleaning and Maintenance

Proper cleaning is essential for hygiene and longevity. After each use, wash the dildo with warm water and mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner like the UV Pure. If your toy is made of silicone, you can also boil it for a few minutes to sterilize it. Make sure to dry it thoroughly before storing it in a cool, dry place.

Inspect your harness regularly for wear and tear, and replace it if the straps are frayed or the O-ring is damaged. Keeping your equipment clean not only prevents infections but also ensures it lasts longer, giving you many more enjoyable sessions.

• Use a toy cleaner or mild soap and warm water.
• Store toys separately to avoid material degradation.
• Check harness straps for signs of wear.

Using a strap-on dildo can be a rewarding and exciting addition to your intimate life, whether you're exploring solo or with a partner. By choosing the right equipment, practicing positions, and prioritizing communication and safety, you'll be well on your way to mastering this versatile toy. Remember to take it slow, use plenty of lube, and most importantly, have fun!